A lot of people walk around wearing invisible masks that hide who they truly are. Are you wearing a mask? Some people say things like "I need to be this way at work or I won't be accepted/respected/appreciated there" or "I have to act that way around my family because they wouldn't accept this part of my life", or even "If I don't hide this part of my personality, I won't have any friends." A true friend will be drawn to you because of your honesty about who you are. While a true friend may kindly point it out if you are starting to go down a road that could lead to a negative outcome, they will not criticize you for being you. Good or bad decision, they will be there by your side during and at the end of every road. Too often we think because someone is a blood relative we have to change our behavior(s) to where we can be accepted. We need to erase this philosophy from our minds. Family or friends, if they can't accept EVERY part of you for who you truly are, they need not be in your inner circle. When you are being a chameleon and changing or appearing to change your thoughts and beliefs to fit in with someone or a group of people, you drain your own energy. When you are going against what your soul knows and believes, it's an uphill race and the only prize is that of fake support.
When it comes to wearing a mask at work, may I suggest if you can't be who you really are at work, maybe you are not in the job you are supposed to be in. I realize the thought of working somewhere else especially if you have been at your current job a long time or don't have much work experience can be very frightening. Growth occurs outside our comfort zone and if we choose to stay somewhere where we can't be ourselves, there is definitely no growth going on there. Also keep in mind that if you are doing your life purpose for work, God will not drop you. You will be fully supported as long as you do what you have been assigned to do, put the action and work into it, and leave the mask behind and be your true self. So if you are wearing a mask to be accepted by someone or a group of people, take it off and throw it away! Be you, shine like the star you are (yes even if you don't feel like you are shining, trust me you are someone else's light in the darkness), and throw the mask away forever.
Love & Light,
Margaret Phillips
Thursday, August 30, 2018
Tuesday, August 21, 2018
For Those Who Have Family or Friends Struggling with Addiction
Sometimes we have a loved one who is destroying their lives through addiction or other bad choices. We painfully watch them as they create chaos for themselves and those close to them. This can be excruciating to watch especially when it comes to addiction, and can be almost unbearable when we watch them create chaos, harm their bodies possibly to the point of near death, and be mean and aggressive to those who love them. It can be beyond awful if you are the one on the receiving end of the verbal or physical abuse, having things stolen from you, are the one who gets the phone call asking to pick up that person from jail and bring bail money, etc. Unfortunately when it comes to addiction, we have to wait for the person who is addicted to see first that there is a problem and then decide they want to change their behavior. Usually this does not happen until the addict hits rock bottom. Rock bottom looks different for everyone and it can take months or years for a person struggling with addiction to get there. Meanwhile, their loved ones watch painfully as the addict destroys his/her life.
So what can a person who has an addicted loved one do to help them stop using drugs? There are a few things you can do, but unfortunately none of them will solve the problem swiftly. You can love them and emotionally support them. Emotional support is important for people struggling with addiction, however if you are putting yourself in harm's way in order to emotionally support an addict, you need to ask your Higher Power how much are you supposed to be involved in the addict's life. Sometimes love is tough love, and yes, that may mean distancing yourself or even not talking to them until they stop using drugs for a specific amount of time. This is extremely difficult, but sometimes an addict needs to feel alone in order to stop using. Having little or no family support in their lives is what some addicts need in order to decide they are willing to change. You can make statements such as "I love you and when you have stopped using drugs, I will happily welcome you back into my life." You have to protect yourself emotionally and physically first, before you can help someone else.
It may mean not taking those "come pick me up from jail" phone calls and most likely means do not give them cash. If you feel you must assist them with food or gas money, buy the food or gas for them. A lot of people feel they can solve the problem by not allowing alcohol or drugs into their home. Unfortunately this is a waste of time and energy. If someone who is addicted decides to get drunk or high, there is no stopping them. Banning it from your home or pouring it all down the drain will only make them go get it somewhere else. Even if you destroy it as soon as it comes through your door, an addict caught in the grips of addiction will just turn around and go back out for more, most likely after having some unpleasant words for you. You can also join a support group such as Nar-Anon (this is useful for families of alcoholics or drug addicts). This is a very difficult time and having someone going through similar circumstances will help tremendously.
The other thing you can do is pray for them, other family members affected by it, and yourself. I am including a prayer you can use or something similar that resonates with you that will help you get through this difficult time. Use it daily or as many times a day as you need to use it to help you feel empowered and able to get through this situation. Sometimes the best type of empowerment comes through surrender.
God (or whatever you choose to call your Higher Power), please help (insert addict's name here) to see the harm he/she is causing him/herself and others in his/her life. Please help (addict's name) to see the chaos that is being created by the addiction and have a desire stronger than the addiction to stop the chaos and harm that is being done. Please help (addict's name) to rely on Your power to overcome this addiction, as I am aware he/she cannot overcome it without Your help. Please help me and my family to lean on You during this time. Please help us to allow You to heal (addict's name), according to Your Divine timing, not our human "right now" timing. Please help me/us to accept this situation as part of the trial he/she must endure for growth. Please guide me/us with the knowledge of how I/we can best help and support (addict's name). Please help me/us to surrender to You, knowing You are the only one who can heal (addict's name) and at the end of the day, I/we are powerless over his/her choices. Please help me/us to keep firm boundaries and to protect myself/ourselves from the affects of the addiction as much as possible. Please help me/us to remember to take a deep breath and release his/her decision if/when he/she decides to use again/continue using. He/she has free will and no matter how much I want to save them, it is not my job nor my families job to save them. He/she must decide to let You take control of their lives and help them. Thank you.
Love & Light to all of you.
Margaret Phillips
So what can a person who has an addicted loved one do to help them stop using drugs? There are a few things you can do, but unfortunately none of them will solve the problem swiftly. You can love them and emotionally support them. Emotional support is important for people struggling with addiction, however if you are putting yourself in harm's way in order to emotionally support an addict, you need to ask your Higher Power how much are you supposed to be involved in the addict's life. Sometimes love is tough love, and yes, that may mean distancing yourself or even not talking to them until they stop using drugs for a specific amount of time. This is extremely difficult, but sometimes an addict needs to feel alone in order to stop using. Having little or no family support in their lives is what some addicts need in order to decide they are willing to change. You can make statements such as "I love you and when you have stopped using drugs, I will happily welcome you back into my life." You have to protect yourself emotionally and physically first, before you can help someone else.
It may mean not taking those "come pick me up from jail" phone calls and most likely means do not give them cash. If you feel you must assist them with food or gas money, buy the food or gas for them. A lot of people feel they can solve the problem by not allowing alcohol or drugs into their home. Unfortunately this is a waste of time and energy. If someone who is addicted decides to get drunk or high, there is no stopping them. Banning it from your home or pouring it all down the drain will only make them go get it somewhere else. Even if you destroy it as soon as it comes through your door, an addict caught in the grips of addiction will just turn around and go back out for more, most likely after having some unpleasant words for you. You can also join a support group such as Nar-Anon (this is useful for families of alcoholics or drug addicts). This is a very difficult time and having someone going through similar circumstances will help tremendously.
The other thing you can do is pray for them, other family members affected by it, and yourself. I am including a prayer you can use or something similar that resonates with you that will help you get through this difficult time. Use it daily or as many times a day as you need to use it to help you feel empowered and able to get through this situation. Sometimes the best type of empowerment comes through surrender.
God (or whatever you choose to call your Higher Power), please help (insert addict's name here) to see the harm he/she is causing him/herself and others in his/her life. Please help (addict's name) to see the chaos that is being created by the addiction and have a desire stronger than the addiction to stop the chaos and harm that is being done. Please help (addict's name) to rely on Your power to overcome this addiction, as I am aware he/she cannot overcome it without Your help. Please help me and my family to lean on You during this time. Please help us to allow You to heal (addict's name), according to Your Divine timing, not our human "right now" timing. Please help me/us to accept this situation as part of the trial he/she must endure for growth. Please guide me/us with the knowledge of how I/we can best help and support (addict's name). Please help me/us to surrender to You, knowing You are the only one who can heal (addict's name) and at the end of the day, I/we are powerless over his/her choices. Please help me/us to keep firm boundaries and to protect myself/ourselves from the affects of the addiction as much as possible. Please help me/us to remember to take a deep breath and release his/her decision if/when he/she decides to use again/continue using. He/she has free will and no matter how much I want to save them, it is not my job nor my families job to save them. He/she must decide to let You take control of their lives and help them. Thank you.
Love & Light to all of you.
Margaret Phillips
Tuesday, August 14, 2018
August 2018 Newsletter
Angels Always Around Us 
Do things in your own time, not a time specified by society, family, or friends. We each have our own path to walk and the path is smoother if we follow Divine guidance rather than rushing things because someone says we should choose a career path, get married, have a baby, etc by a specific age. When we listen to our intuition, follow Spirit, and allow Divine timing to work instead of trying to force a timeline to meet someone else's standards, life is a lot easier to handle and we are happier. Be you and honor the timeline the Divine has for you, not society's timeline.
Message from the Angels
The angels want you to take some time to be more self aware. As you continue on this next part of your journey, they want you to make sure you are taking time to be outside, especially by bodies of water to recharge your batteries. As you are at another level of enlightenment, you will be more sensitive to people, places, and energy around you. They want you to avoid any harsh situations, relationships, or energy when possible. This sensitivity is a form of protection for you, as the negative environments will be very difficult for you to endure being in for an extended period of time. They also want you to know that the Divine has an infinite supply of all the things you need and many of the things you want, including finances, true friendships, and love. You need only be ready and willing to receive it and it will be yours.
Crystal Corner
Moldavite is a dark olive green crystal that is believed to have came from a giant meteorite that hit Earth. Moldavite is a great protection stone as it is difficult for negative energies and entities to penetrate the aura of someone wearing or holding it. It is also great to help you connect with Spiritual beings as it keeps away the darker or negative Spiritual beings. It is a very high vibrating stone and when you first start using it, it's a good idea to use it in short intervals until you get used to its vibration. Some people may feel an intense heat or dizziness when they first start using it. Moldavite is great for removing blockages from chakra and aligning them. Like other green stones, it works well with the heart chakra.
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Tuesday, August 7, 2018
Release to be at Peace
Part of our experience in this life is to have relationships that will end. Everyone who comes into our lives has some purpose. They may have entered our lives to teach us something or we may have been put on their path to teach them something. Either way, only a handful of relationships will last the majority of our lives if we are fortunate. Some relationships will be unhealthy. Even if an unhealthy relationship lasts for years or decades, at some point you have to release it so you can have peace.
If you were involved in an unhealthy relationship and yet still hold onto the other person, try to warp the memories in your mind, or even have "it wasn't always awful" memories, it can bring you down and keep you not only from having peace but keep you from finding true happiness. You have to release the other person, send them love, wish them peace, and move on. It is unhealthy to hold onto the past if it was negative. It is unhealthy to value the memory of a special day or what should have been a special day that involved someone who mistreated you.
If the person who mistreated you was a parent, it can be quite confusing and difficult to release them. They were supposed to love you, so shouldn't you love them back? Shouldn't you be grateful to them for what they did do for you? Some of you may be thinking, they mistreated or abused me, but I still had the basic necessities of life. Doesn't that mean I owe them something? No, it doesn't. Mistreatment and abuse is wrong, no matter where it comes from and what may "go right" at other times. Abuse should not be condoned, nor should it be swept under the rug and the abuser made to look like a good person. Anyone who abuses someone else is not a good person. If they treat others outside of the family nice but abuse you or their family, they are not a good person. A lot of abusers hide in plain sight, being nice to people outside of the family or even nice to their family in public, but behind closed doors, they are a monster.
If you are holding onto memories of someone who mistreated you and they are deceased, it can be very difficult to release them. You may tell yourself "it wasn't always that bad" because now that they are gone you feel guilty about saying negative things about them. As the saying goes, "the truth shall set you free." Allowing your mind to warp the memories of bad experiences and/or trauma only does more damage to you as you attempt to bury the truth. The subconscious remembers everything fully and completely. There is no hiding or manipulating the truth from the subconscious and you will either have to deal with it at some point or spend your life not knowing what happiness really is. You may feel like since they have passed you can never make peace with them or say how you feel. You may feel like it doesn't matter since they are gone. Your inner peace always matters! You can write them a letter, tell them aloud how you feel, or see consult a psychic medium to help you express your feelings.
Allowing someone else's negative actions to affect your life after they are deceased or after a relationship ends will only bring you pain. Release them and let yourself find peace. Releasing them in no way condones their actions, it just severs the ties they have to you and gives you peace.
*** Note: This blog post was not written referring to any one individual in particular, but rather written to help those in the world who are trying to heal and find happiness or need to be made aware they can find happiness and love even after abuse and/or mistreatment. Unfortunately, there are too many people dwelling on past bad relationships that are only prolonging their own pain. I wish all those who are going through the pain of not releasing bad past relationships the courage and strength to release the bad past relationship(s) and the ability to move on and find peace and happiness.
With love & light,
Margaret Phillips
If you were involved in an unhealthy relationship and yet still hold onto the other person, try to warp the memories in your mind, or even have "it wasn't always awful" memories, it can bring you down and keep you not only from having peace but keep you from finding true happiness. You have to release the other person, send them love, wish them peace, and move on. It is unhealthy to hold onto the past if it was negative. It is unhealthy to value the memory of a special day or what should have been a special day that involved someone who mistreated you.
If the person who mistreated you was a parent, it can be quite confusing and difficult to release them. They were supposed to love you, so shouldn't you love them back? Shouldn't you be grateful to them for what they did do for you? Some of you may be thinking, they mistreated or abused me, but I still had the basic necessities of life. Doesn't that mean I owe them something? No, it doesn't. Mistreatment and abuse is wrong, no matter where it comes from and what may "go right" at other times. Abuse should not be condoned, nor should it be swept under the rug and the abuser made to look like a good person. Anyone who abuses someone else is not a good person. If they treat others outside of the family nice but abuse you or their family, they are not a good person. A lot of abusers hide in plain sight, being nice to people outside of the family or even nice to their family in public, but behind closed doors, they are a monster.
If you are holding onto memories of someone who mistreated you and they are deceased, it can be very difficult to release them. You may tell yourself "it wasn't always that bad" because now that they are gone you feel guilty about saying negative things about them. As the saying goes, "the truth shall set you free." Allowing your mind to warp the memories of bad experiences and/or trauma only does more damage to you as you attempt to bury the truth. The subconscious remembers everything fully and completely. There is no hiding or manipulating the truth from the subconscious and you will either have to deal with it at some point or spend your life not knowing what happiness really is. You may feel like since they have passed you can never make peace with them or say how you feel. You may feel like it doesn't matter since they are gone. Your inner peace always matters! You can write them a letter, tell them aloud how you feel, or see consult a psychic medium to help you express your feelings.
Allowing someone else's negative actions to affect your life after they are deceased or after a relationship ends will only bring you pain. Release them and let yourself find peace. Releasing them in no way condones their actions, it just severs the ties they have to you and gives you peace.
*** Note: This blog post was not written referring to any one individual in particular, but rather written to help those in the world who are trying to heal and find happiness or need to be made aware they can find happiness and love even after abuse and/or mistreatment. Unfortunately, there are too many people dwelling on past bad relationships that are only prolonging their own pain. I wish all those who are going through the pain of not releasing bad past relationships the courage and strength to release the bad past relationship(s) and the ability to move on and find peace and happiness.
With love & light,
Margaret Phillips
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