Friday, December 28, 2018

Check Your Patterns and Your Childhood

     Sometimes in life we have to step back and look at our lives, including our childhood.  Often we form patterns from examples that were modeled for us growing up.  We need to look at these patterns and see if they are beneficial or actually causing harm to ourselves in some way, even if in the name of helping others.  I recently realized that part of the reason I had major issues with saying no to people for most of my life was because I was stuck in an unhealthy pattern I had learned in childhood.
     My Dad always helped others, often at his own expense or the expense of our family.  He was a mechanic who became disabled from a workplace injury.  His "friends" would ask him to fix their vehicles, often for just the cost of the parts using his mechanic's discount.  Occasionally he was paid a small amount for his work, but even then it would break down to maybe a couple of dollars an hour by the time it was done.  I use the term friends in quotes because a true friend does not ask  someone to do something that would knowingly cause pain to the other person.  When my dad repaired cars or even changed the oil, it would cause him a lot of pain that required medication and cause his limp to worsen for a few days. My dad did have free will and it was his choice to say yes or no to these requests, but a good friend wouldn't have asked him to do these tasks in the first place knowing the pain it would cause.  He had his own issues that prevented him from saying no, so he is responsible for his pain as well as the person who asked the favor of him in my opinion.
     It took me a while as an adult to learn how to say no when people asked for help that would cause me physical pain.  For too long, I would help someone move, lift something, or do an activity that would be more than my back could handle and only make myself worse.  I had to come to love myself more than others, love myself more than I cared about what other people thought, and to love myself enough to put my health first.  That was not an easy nor speedy task, but it is one I am so glad I accomplished.  It is very empowering and I believe it helps you to love yourself more when you say no to something you shouldn't be doing for whatever reason.  It also gets easier  to say no when someone asks you to do something you have no business doing the more often you do it.  I admit the first several times can be hard, especially if you have difficulty setting boundaries.
     If you find yourself putting others before you, check your patterns and see if you can find their origin,  Iss this something you created for yourself or is this a pattern you were exposed to earlier in life and just carried on as if it was what you were supposed to do? Is this pattern of behavior something you started because you wanted people to like you? Either way, you can change.  You can put your needs first.  It is not selfish as long as it's not all the time and it is preventing you from harming yourself or your family in some way.  It is a great thing to help others, when no harm is done while we are helping others. 

Wednesday, December 19, 2018

December 2018 Newsletter

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As Christmas approaches and social media fills with images of families, I wish you happiness, joy and love.  I wish that your heart is full and you have someone to share time with that you enjoy sharing time with and cares about you.  I send you warm electronic hugs and love and light.
Message from the Angels
The Angels have a powerful message for you this month.  They want you to remember that prayer works, so keep praying for what you need and/or desire.  They want you to know that organizing your thoughts/ideas, schedule, living space, work space, and finances will help you to have the abundance you have been seeking.  Sometimes when our physical space is cluttered, it allows our mind to become cluttered making it hard for beneficial thoughts to surface.  Having a physical space cluttered can also make us feel like there is no way out of a situation.  Mindset is extremely important and by organizing the physical and mental things (make to do lists if it helps), you can be more successful quicker.  The Angels say not to be concerned over where or how the funding for a situation or project is coming, just open yourself up to any ideas that may come your way and allow yourself to accept help from others when it is offered in any form.  

Crystal Corner

Lepidolite is usually pink or purple in color. Lepidolite contains lithium and because of this is helpful in stabilizing moods. It also helps with stress reduction, depression, can help with sleep disturbances, relieve allergies, and strengthen the immune system. With the holidays upon us, almost everyone can use some Lepidolite!

Upcoming Events
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In Person Readings at Events:

Sip 'N Shop with Psychics 
Wednesday, January 2nd from 5 PM - 8 PM
White Horse Winery
106 Hall Street 
Hammonton, NJ

Sip 'N Shop with Psychic Guidance for the New Year
Saturday, January 19th  from 
3 PM - 6 PM
Cedarvale Winery
205 Repaupo Station Road 
Swedesboro, NJ

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